Unsolicited thoughts on divorce

The discussion on the dissolution of marriage has reignited following the approval of the divorce bill by the House of Representatives. The Senate has yet to deliberate on the merits of their version of the bill before deciding on its enactment into law. This has sparked differing opinions from various sectors who feel they have a position to speak on the matter. In Cebu, the Commission of the Laity issued a statement strongly opposing it. They cited the Catholic Church's high regard for the sanctity of marriage, stating that any attempt to break the union goes against the teachings of the Bible.

While I respect their stance on the issue and the denomination as a whole, there are also unsolicited opinions on the matter, particularly from those who are not devout Catholics, are non-practicing Catholics, or hold different beliefs. However, irrespective of religion, the move to legalize divorce should also be viewed through the lens of humanitarian consideration. Some marriages simply do not work out, even with the blessing of the Lord.

I feel deeply connected to this issue as I am a product of a broken marriage. My parents never quite agreed on certain issues that ultimately led to their decision to part ways. Some of these issues included financial differences and conflicts with in-laws, among others. Both decided that I would be better off with my mother, who was keen on taking me in. However, after a few months, she left me in the care of my grandmother and went AWOL. Due to the complicated situation, my father took me in, and I have been living with him since.

It was not an easy childhood. There was a lot of explaining to do to various parties who inquired. It also took some time before an annulment case was filed by my father. However, it remains unresolved to this day. The attending lawyer mentioned that his case was missing from court records for some reason. The waiting game continues. If there had been an easier way to dissolve the marriage, both of my parents would likely be enjoying their separate lives by now.

It is true that there is a need to improve the judiciary's handling of annulment cases. This does not happen quickly. There are numerous procedures and meetings to adhere to for these offices to change their policies. An annulment also entails unnecessary stress, expenses, and a plethora of emotions. My stance on the issue is half-and-half. I believe that every Filipino should have the right to exit an unhappy marriage as soon as possible. They do not deserve to be delayed simply because of how the current law operates. We live in a time of inclusivity, and we are entitled to our rights, including the right to choose who we want to be with. Divorce doesn’t have to apply to all. If you are happy, then don’t. You are admired for being able to maintain your relationship with your spouse.