Alone! is the title of Admiral Richard Byrd’s autobiography. It is the story of this celebrated explorer’s experience in a little hut in the Antarctic near the South Pole. Byrd tells how the isolation of seeing no other human being day after day began working on his mind and emotions as he spent the long winter alone, separated from friends and loved ones, even separated from friendly animals which might have offered some companionship or comfort. Alone he was, but a person does not have to spend a long arctic night in a little hut near the pole to know what it is to experience feelings of isolation and loneliness.
A young mother of four wrote and told me how her family had moved from one city to another when her husband was promised a new job. She was eight months pregnant in a city without friends or relatives when her husband disappeared, leaving a note behind saying that he no longer loved her and that she must make out the best she could. Could any person ever feel more alone and dejected than did this woman?
Many women today know what it is to feel alone and to be alone. Death, as well as infidelity, leaves a lot of women shrouded in loneliness. Three out of four women outlive their husbands by an average of more than seven years. Although the average age of widows the world over is 56, one of every six women over age 21 is widowed. The very word "widow" comes from a word in Sanskrit that means "empty". Loneliness is emptiness.
Logic would decree that single individuals would wrestle with loneliness, but what about those who are part of a group? Are they immune? Today there is another group battling the isolation and depression of loneliness. It is the vast number of young men and women between the ages of 15 and 24 who feel separated and estranged from their families and society in general.
A few years ago, Gertrude Stein called them "a generation without a cause". Today, drugs, casual sex, and the quest for meaningful experiences drive them further and further into their loneliness. Pretty hopeless? Yes, and no! Recognizing the malady of the twentieth century is one thing; knowing how to remedy the situation is quite another matter. It is here that I am optimistic.
My optimism does not stem from an unbridled faith in wishful thinking, but from the certainty that to be alone does not necessarily mean a person has to be lonely. It is during periods of loneliness when our faith is challenged that we can discover the guiding hand of God and learn that Christ’s presence is a reality. Can I experience the actual presence of Jesus Christ in such a way that I can have fellowship with Him? Can I learn that Christ is not just a historical reality, but also a friend who sticks closer than a brother? If the answer is positive–and it is–then, to be alone does not have to be synonymous with loneliness.
Friend, because God’s words are true when He said, "I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee" (Hebrews 13:5, kjv), I can be assured of His companionship in a spiritual, yet very real sense. Matthew recorded the words of Jesus immediately before He returned to heaven as He said, "Lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world" (Matthew 28:20, kjv). His promise brings the confidence that God cares and that He will never allow you to be estranged from His presence. Discovering this great truth will mean you need never be totally alone again–ever again. - Resource reading: Ruth 3
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