What child is this?

Paging the child of a lost mother, please come to the counter. I must have been mesmerized by the sound of the scanner at the supermarket checkout lane to have noticed a lost mother standing in front of the customer service counter. I pictured a sobbing mother being escorted by the guard to the counter because she couldn't find her child. Well, in most cases, it's the other way around.

I stopped by my bank and found my manager five months on the way to become a mother. She just transferred to another department and I barely noticed her new spot. I shared her excitement as she talked about her perilous first trimester and apologetically added that she looks fat and ugly after a hiatus of bed rest. As far as I can see, her hair was lustrous, her skin glowed in a natural tone and her aura looked healthy and well rested. My point of reference to this comparison was the last time I saw her before her wedding and she had her face peeled, frizzy hair straightened and the rest of the disposition was haggard and bitchy.

My theory on her difficult pregnancy is that her body is still adjusting to her growing baby. Since most of her cells are used to setting up the high-stress defense mechanism due to her office work, the cells treat the fetus as a foreign matter, therefore automatically trying to expel it by opening her cervix.

I can't believe I actually sat down and enjoyed our conversation for a couple of hours until the bank closed. Motherhood can really change a person's attitude towards life. Maybe set a few priorities straight like a lost mother yearning for a change of direction in her life. Our conversation led to superstitions about not naming the baby until after the seventh month and that goes through not buying or preparing anything for the arrival of the newborn child. I figured if the child doesn't make it to this world, maybe the parents won't be as attached to the name and material stuff they got for the baby.

So what motivated her pregnancy despite her being a career woman? She shared this story of a childless couple who had been married long enough and wanted to have a child so bad that they considered going to Singapore to try the in-vitro fertilization procedure. The plan didn't materialize because the church they belong doesn't allow that practice. Maybe things would have been a lot easier if they switched churches.

Well, one day the wife found out that the husband had a child with another woman. The usual story goes on with the wife being devastated and a series of questions haunted her everyday as the couple split up (yawn). So what's the big deal here? They got what they wished for - a child. It was delivered through another woman, so to speak and it's up to them to accept the gift or not.

Mad, I was so angry and pissed off at the guy that I had nightmares for three consecutive nights! My bank manager couldn't handle her friend's situation that she was sharing the grief. Now I understand her reason why she wanted to have a child. Simply because she was afraid to lose her husband to another woman in case she doesn't produce an offspring.

Most people are brought up to believe that having a spouse is banking on security for life. You just have to produce an offspring as a bond to ensure high-yield savings. Marriage with children is not risk-free. It doesn't guarantee that one of the spouses will not fool around or be polyamorous.

Up until now, I'm not sure about the Mary and Joseph thing. Who cares if the Holy Child is miraculously implanted in Mary's womb; be it incest or consensual rape? As long as a child is destined to be born through a woman, it doesn't matter how it got to the womb or by whom in the first place. We like to listen to gossip anyway. It makes life more interesting than accepting things as they are.

Every baby has a spirit prior to being born in this world. A spirit baby enters into a contract with its prospective parent/s. They observe their prospects and decide if they want to share a life with them or just pass through them then move on to another family (in the case of adoption). If a spirit baby feels threatened or unsure, a miscarriage or abortion usually occurs. Yes, we chose our parents before birth according to the challenges we want to work on in this lifetime.

What about you, Madz? Well, this Christmas I wish for a love child.

My bank manager looked at me like I'm crazy. Hey, what more can you wish for than having a child out of miraculous pure love?