Love is all-encompassing! It bridges age, race, religion, political beliefs, and social status. Let me share with you the answers to the questions Ive gotten from our e-mail.
Teenagers all over the country that make up 30 percent of those who write us, have this common question, "How will I know if Im in love?" The blush on their cheeks and stars in their eyes are all proof that theyre young and so eager to be in love. I think youre in love if all you do is think of that one person. Youre in love if just the thought of him or her makes you happy. Youre in love if all you want is to be with that person and to do things together. Youre in love if you have a high regard for his opinion, if youre willing to give without expecting anything in return, and are prepared to make sacrifices. You forgive his or her shortcomings as well.
The marrying age group has more serious concerns. While they contemplate making the big leap, they also want someone to play the devils advocate. "How do you know if hes the right person for me?" Everythings a gamble. "Is he a friend?" Those who start off as friends create a stronger foundation. Other questions include: Anything you have in common? Do you have the same goals? Is he supportive of them? Does he bring out the best in you? Do you make each other happy? Are you of the same income level (a realistic concern)? Do you laugh together?
The girls, meanwhile, are concerned with quite a lot of issues dealing with physical attractiveness and insecurities. Questions on whether her boyfriends ex was prettier than her, or if she promises to remain pretty forever abound. Its harder to keep a husbands antenna tuned in to you these days. And the most crucial question is: Are you ready to grow old together? These are basic questions but many still get stumped.
Answering all these questions makes me think about Triccie Sison, Wally Ledesma as well as imminent psychiatrists Dr. Ted Abas, Dr. Lourdes Lapuz, Dr. Manny Escudero, Dr. Baltazar Reyes.
How determined are we to keep a commitment? How interested are we to be faithful to that commitment? Is love the end-all of all things? These are questions well all be asking at some point in our lives. From the time a child first cries out to a mans last gasp for breath, we only want to love and be loved.
Why do we fall in love? Well, a famous neurologist puts it this way, "Blame it on your endorphin. That neurotransmitter produced by the brain makes us feel euphoric. The production of this substance comes in waves in the brain. When a womans endorphin level is high, she looks around and sees a man and falls in love with that man even if he looks like a grasshopper." Of course, we do not want to sound irrational. So ask me a question on love and Ill give you an unreasonable answer. Rodgers and Hammersteins musical South Pacific probably said it best in the song Some Enchanted Evening. Its a personal favorite because thats what happened to me! I guess feelings just dont think!