Ms. Broken-Hearted
There are different recipes for healing a broken heart. Different strokes for different folks, as the saying goes. John Gray, author of the famous book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, said that a person should allow him/her/self to grieve. If one must cry a river, do so. If you want to put on your theme song and cry until your eyes pop out, do so. It is part of the healing process to grieve and a man is not exempted from that. Some men, in fact, take longer than women to heal. A male friend said that when he broke up from his girlfriend of seven years, he was so hurt. But in order to forget, he went out with as many women that he could possibly date. It was his way of healing and forgetting. He found himself talking about his breakup to his dates but they understood. He needed to unburden his heavy heart and he was lucky that his dates listened and sympathized. Another friend told me that her way of forgetting was to travel and see good friends in different parts of the world. They knew her predicament and entertained her by taking her to beautiful resorts, good restaurants, discos, etc. She quickly got over him this way. Another friend went on a spiritual binge. She attended a lot of spiritual retreats, asked the Lord for help to make her forget this man that caused her so much pain. She couldn’t get herself to socialize as her mind was focused too much on her pain. She only wanted to pray and be in solitude. It worked out for her. The Lord, indeed, made her forget and gave her a boyfriend with whom she is so happy today. One friend immersed himself in work. It was therapeutic for him to work even harder than he ever did. It kept his mind off his breakup. It did his business a lot of good because his sales went up a thousandfold. Another friend took up boxing and expelled his ill feelings on that punching bag. It made him feel so good to do that. There is no fool-proof recipe to mend a broken heart, but one thing’s for sure, time heals all wounds. How much time? It depends on yourself. Some people allow themselves to wallow in their misery for a very long time. This is not advisable. One must allow oneself to grieve in the healing process but not too long. It is not good to be miserable for a long time. Give yourself a time limit and don’t exceed that day. When that time comes, get up from your hard fall and get ready to face the world. Life is beautiful and falling in love is a wonderful feeling. Don’t ever get to that point of getting so calloused and bitter. No person is worth that. Allow yourself to appreciate the wonders of life and the beauty of love all over. One of these recipes should work out for you. Good luck!
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