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Yilmaz Bektas is determined to come and fetch his wife Ruffa Gutierrez and their daughters Lorin and Venice and bring them back to Istanbul and start life together again.

This is what he said in a second statement after he said in the first one that he’s divorcing Ruffa.

He’s also saying “I’m sorry” to his parents-in-law Eddie Gutierrez and Annabelle Rama (whom he’s partly blaming for causing his and Ruffa’s break-up).

Here’s Yilmaz’s statement in full, also unedited like the first one: 

First of all, I want to apologize to Daddy Eddie and Mother Anabel, who have been very good to me. But I hope that they will try to understand my side also.  Nobody has been calling me from her family. I had to learn all of this through the newspapers.

The situation right now of Ruffa, changing her religion, is not really a big issue for me. She has freedom to decide. She could be a Christian or a Catholic woman, wherever she feels comfortable.  From my heart, I just wish that she will be a good Christian or Catholic woman.

Right now it looks like she’s getting sympathy from the people, but I know in her heart that she never wished for things to turn out like this.

 I don’t think that this is the right time to talk to the press. I think the best time is when everything has calmed down. I don’t want this to turn into a soap opera. But if she’s comfortable to share things with them at this moment, I would understand.

I am not a perfect person. And Ruffa is not a bad woman, she is not a bad wife, she is not a bad mom, the only bad thing is that not everyone surrounding her are good people. I’m not talking about her family, I’m referring to other people.

I never want to leave my two little angels. When my kids grow up, if I’m going to still be with them, I’m going to teach them first to fear god, how to pray, and then the importance of having good friends or good people around.

Some of the people surrounding Ruffa are just jealous because she’s beautiful. She has a nice life, she’s so famous. I never intend to stop her from mingling or socializing or going out, I’m just trying to protect her from some people.

We had seven good years together. People close to us once said, we set a good example to them. They were telling us how happy we looked & how in love we were. And then suddenly it turned into this. If this has to end, I want a good end. But if we still want to keep this marriage, we better start working on it now before too much damage is made. I obviously prefer to save our marriage.

Right now, it looks like she doesn’t want to see me running behind her. But only until she tells me she doesn’t want me or doesn’t love me anymore that I’m going to move on with my life. Then I’ll pray to God to give her the happiness she deserves. 

Everyone from my family wants Ruffa back. They all love her so much. Hopefully when I go to the Philippines everything would be better like I could speak to her mom and her father. She’s my wife, I can’t blame her for anything, if I’m going to blame her, then I’d be blaming myself too. Why would I blame her family? That’s my family too.

You may be a Filipino, Jewish, or Muslim, but still in a family, in a marriage, two things remain constant, these are love & respect.

I believe that all our actions have consequences, if indeed I had violent tendencies wouldn’t I be smart enough to understand that I will surely suffer the consequences of my actions? This story is already coming out in the Turkish papers and they’re all blaming me but still I’m keeping silent about the issues. Time will tell who’s right & who’s wrong.

I hate it that my name is coming out in the papers, that Ruffa’s & my daughters’ names are out in the paper.  I have access to the press people here too but I never asked them to write about my wife or my children.

I don’t intend for other people to look at me as the poor guy. I just hope to get the respect back from the Filipino people. Again, I won’t stop fighting for my family and my children until my wife tells me she doesn’t need me or love me anymore. 

But why do people keep jumping to conclusions?  I will say now that Mother Annabel is not the materialistic relative that I was referring too. That relative knows who he or she is. I will tell the public who it is when I come to Manila to fetch my family. I will tell you all who it is before we — Ruffa, the children and I — leave together.

That is my hope…to get my family back together and leave Manila as one family.

(Postscript: A Star source said that Ruffa is leaving for L.A. tonight. It’s not sure if her daughters Lorin and Venice are going with her.)