Selosong BF

Dear Dr. Love,

Cheerful greetings! It’s been a while since I read your column online. The latest I’ve read is about Ron’s story. Anyway, I’m an avid reader of your column and it really impress me the way you give advices. Just call me Sheillane (not my real name) from Buhangin, Davao City.

I have a boyfriend for two years, we’re both 25 years old turning 26 this year and he’s in Saudi right now. Pagbalik niya, we will get married. He constantly told me how much he loves me if he call, but there were times na hindi maiwasan mag-away. Ang common na dahilan ay lagi niya akong pinagdududahan if I failed to answer his calls dahil busy ako sa work.

Sometimes he accuse me kahit wala akong masamang ginagawa. He often compares me to his previous girlfriends na niloko siya. I am diffe­rent from them! I believe I am educated, civilized and had been faithful since the time he courted me, proposed to me, until now. Hindi ko siya pineperahan, I have my own business and I grew up in a God-fearing family.

What pains me most is that his family is gos­ siping false stories against me. I fear that he might listen to them and soon will lose his trust and love towards me. He told me to resign from my work and stop my business, as well not to communicate my colleagues, my suppliers, and customers. It’s a big NO to me! That’s my bread and butter.

Sometimes I am thinking of giving up on our relationship. Total, hindi ako nagkulang. I am texting him everyday, kinukumusta siya, every quarter of a day. I never failed to text him especially on our monssary kahit hindi siya nagre-reply minsan. How could I make him understand that I also love my work, my business, and my friends?

Thank you so much. Pagpasensiyahan na ninyo ang mahaba kong sulat.

Sincerely yours,

Sheillane

Dear Sheillane,

Ang pagseselos, kung nasa lugar ay palatandaan na mahal ka ng isang tao. Even God is a jealous God, according to the Bible. Kaso, kapag sumobra ito ay nakakasira ng relasyon. Kung minsan nga, ang tao ay nagiging violent dahil sa labis na pagseselos na wala sa lugar.

Now, sinabi mo na kung anu-anong pani­nira ang sinasabi ng mga kaanak ng iyong boy­friend. Siguro iyan ang dahilan kung bakit ganun-ganun na lang ang pagseselos niya. Well, this is much I can say. Kung totoong mahal ka niya, hindi siya dapat maniwala sa sabi-sabi. Kaya pag-isipan mong mabuti. Siguro mahal mo siya pero itanong mo sa sarili mo, liligaya ka kaya kapag lagi siyang ganoon?

Siguro it will be well worth it kung tawagan mo siya sa telepono o cellphone para mapag-usapan ninyo ang problema.

Dr. Love