Ang single mom longing for love

Dear Dr. Love,

Hi! Remember me? It’s Trisha. It’s been a year since I’ve sent you my story. Thanks for the advice, it was really great. That’s why I never failed reading your column.

Actually, there’s nothing new with me. I’m still the same super sweet, thoughtful, loving, masarap magluto na single mom at the age of 22. But I’m no longer calling myself "The Great Pretender" ‘coz I’m no longer scared to tell the whole world how lucky I am for having a very beautiful daughter. And I owe it to somebody. His name is Luis. I met him when I’m in the lowest point of my life. He was my "outlet."

He was there. He never left me. He stood by me. He comforted me. He was a shoulder to cry on. He knew everything about me, even my past and my secrets.

Until one day, he told me that he loves me. He wants to be a part of me and take good care of me and my daughter. He has so many plans for the three of us. He even proposed marriage to me! My friends told me not to let go of someone like him. He is a good-looking person, has a good job, a good heart and he belongs to a good family. I accepted him though I’m not sure of my feelings towards him.

I brought him home and everybody liked him. We had a beautiful relationship then. He promised me a lot of things–that he won’t leave me, that no more tears will fall on my cheeks, that I will never be alone anymore. He asked me to hold on with him.

Everybody is happy for me ‘coz they thought I finally found someone who would take me to the altar. But they were all wrong. He left me along with his broken promises and shattered dreams.

But I’m not mad with him. He was still an angel for me. I understand him when he told me he’s not yet ready for the responsibilities of having an instant family. He is only 21 years-old. I knew from the start that this will happen. That one day, he will have a change of heart.

I’m not bitter for what happened. I’m happy that I met him in my life. I’ve learned a lot from him. He taught me how to be strong and face the challenges of life with courage.

Now, I’m back being alone. I’m still picking up the pieces. I’m still longing for love and true happiness, still searching for somebody who will fill the emptiness inside of me.

But I won’t get tired of waiting ‘coz I know that one day, I will wake up with somebody I truly love and who truly loves me also.

Thanks a lot and God bless.

Trisha

Dear Trisha,

May kasabihang "It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."

Kaya lang, ang pagkasawi sa pag-ibig ay maaaring maiwasan kung gagamitin mo hindi lamang ang puso kundi pati pag-iisip.

Mahirap kung minsan kumilatis sa pagkatao ng isang manliligaw kaya sa pakikipagrelasyon, don’t give your all hangga’t hindi pa kayo ikinakasal.

I hope and pray na matatagpuan mo ang tamang lalaking magiging katuwang mo habang panahon.

Sa mga gustong makipagkaibigan kay Trisha, her telephone and cellphone numbers are 046-9700137 at 0919-5020557.

Dr. Love