Wanted: Ideal Man

Perhaps every woman wants to be at the center of her man’s world. She wants him to see her as his equal and, at the same time, his princess. She wants him to seek her to give him strength, and to treat her like a fragile crystal.

The woman wants her man to know what makes her happy, without her having to tell him. When her man shows real interest in her happiness – looks after her needs, does the things that he thinks she’ll like – the woman glows. The man, though, sometimes finds this to be a tall order to cover.

It is the common complaint among women that, soon after the honeymoon period, their men turn somewhat dry and cold, even rough, with them. “He is very well-behaved when in the company of other people,” one wife said of her husband. “When we are alone, he simply forgets all his manners.” Bad manners are a poison in any relationship, so much so in a couple’s dealings with each other.

A woman relishes tenderness in the man she loves. She wants him to be expressive of his feelings for her. Sad to say, today’s men are no longer very abundant of this quality. It is a modern-day virtue for men to keep their emotions to themselves.

It is quite hard for the man to understand that his woman wants him to be hardy, to be fierce and self-assertive, but that it should only be as far as his dealings with the world are concerned. When he’s with her, she wants him to be gentle and sweet.

Many wives complain that their husbands are poor companions. The men come home from work and lapse into bored silence, avoiding every chance for a casual conversation with their spouses. After dinner, they either re-read the day’s papers or watch TV or seek the company of other men. Most bitter are wives who say that their husbands are so full of life when they are with other people, but utterly dull at home.

With many women, money is a practical thing by which to gauge their standing in a man’s life. They take offense when their husbands give them only a pittance while spending freely for their own delights. What’s more hurting is when their husbands grumble about the quality of the food or furnishings at home, without seeming to realize that their wives are already doing miracles with the meager budget that they are given.

A woman knows that respect is a vital component of love. She takes offense when he makes fun of her when they’re with other people, and openly criticizes her in front of their children. Aside from the obvious feeling of humiliation, a woman treated with disrespect by her man may actually be more hurt by the fact that he lets her down. Anybody being subjected to ridicule or embarrassment will feel bad, much more so when the slight is coming from someone you thought was on your side. 

Honesty in her man is of supreme importance to the woman. The wife who catches her husband concealing the truth from her will no longer feel secure. If she knows that he lies to her, she soon wonders what he is doing, where he is and whom he is with when he’s out of her sight. Her gravest fear is that there may be some other woman in his life.

The qualities that a woman looks for in a man seem quite a tall order, indeed. She deserves it all, notwithstanding. For her vital role in looking after the needs of her husband, in making his home and mothering his children, it is only fair that a woman also gets her own needs taken care of by her man.

But then again, the woman may not find it easy to find her ideal man. But it will help to take thoughtful effort on her part to find him. First and foremost, the woman must look for a man of the right character. A man who is obviously uncouth and shrewd cannot be expected to be tender, courteous, companionable and understanding towards his wife, in any real and sustained way.