Why are you still single?

CEBU, Philippines - Have you asked why you are still single this time? Could there be a purpose why God let you be who you are and where you are now? There might be four possible reasons why you are still single.

One could be that God wants you to fulfill your goals just being alone by yourself. Perhaps, you need more time to figure out what you want in life. If you are single, you may be able to get what you want because no one would hinder you from making your dreams come true. For example, you want to go abroad. If you are free, then, going to another country would just be easy unlike if you are involved and have a family already. As reported by McDonald (2009), “if you don’t know where you are going, any road will get you there….”

Another possible reason is that you are not ready to get married. Probably, you have many issues to resolve while you are still single. Resolving your inner conflicts while you are still single is very helpful. This is so important in order for you to have a healthy relationship with your loved one by the time you are involved and have a lifetime partner. In this manner, once you are already married, you will become healthy parents. As argued by Cloyd (2009), healthy parents foster their children’s discovery of their own developing nature, accepting it, and helping their children to celebrate it as it emerges” unlike parents who have many unresolved issues. 

The third reason could be about maturity. Try to figure out whether you are already emotionally mature to handle bigger responsibilities, if you were already married – with a husband and kids to attend to. According to Figer and Cagadas (2007), women’s role involves childbearing, care, and management of the family including their ability to negotiate with their husbands to be more influential. Thus, it is not easy to get married since communication is really a very important ingredient of a successful marriage. Furthermore, “to enter into marriage without emotional maturity is tantamount to life of instability because marriage with external interference is a display of emotional immaturity….” (“Marriage”, 2009).

Fourth, financial stability is also a very essential factor in marriage. Perhaps, your salary is not yet sufficient to support a family. Nowadays, most couples are working to support their children and provide not only for their children’s needs but also for their wants. In fact, “one of the reasons many people are not married is because they lack the financial capability to do so….” (“Marriage”, 2009).

These could be the four possible reasons why you are still single this time. To summarize, the reasons might be about fulfilling your goals first before getting married, not being ready to enter matrimony, immaturity, and financial instability. Have you wondered and pondered on the possible reasons why you are still single? Find out and know yourself more.